What happens when a late 40’s guy gets sick of the rat race, burnt out on trying to find a good woman in the nightmare of dating in the U.S., and just decides to throw all-in on an internatinal dating website and prepares for a travel adventure? Well, you get me, Barron Hansen, a web developer and internet consultant who simply says “it’s time to go.”
MyPhilippinesAdventures.com is my website to video document my travels to the Philippines, the preparations I had to make, the products and gear that I chose for my trips, the travel process getting to and from my desitinations, and in-depth information about the places I visit while in the Philippines.
My adventures take some interesting turns, so keep reading and watching.
This all started during Christmas 2016 when I realized I was fed up with the dating scene in the U.S., and bought myself a 3 month subscription to Blossoms.com with the intention of finding a good woman from somewhere in an Asian country. I have a few friends that have married Asian women and they claim it’s the best thing they ever did. I figured that if it works for them … “why not me?” Maybe this sounds like a crazy idea to some, but if you have tried dating in the U.S. these days, you know that it is similar to trying to run through an explosive mine field in a pair of concrete snow shoes.
So, I got online and started chatting with women from all over the Asian region; China, Vietnam, Thailand, Japan, Taiwan, and the Philippines. Yes, much like you hear about in the warnings about trying out international dating websites, there were women there just looking for money, or a sugar daddy, but they are pretty quick to expose themselves for who/what they are, because they can only wait so long before they start hitting you up for money. After just a few messages back and forth, they will hit you with a copy/paste sob story about some family emergency that they need you to wire them money for as soon as possible. These are the same type of women here in the U.S. that want you to take them out to a $200 dinner on the first date after exchanging only a couple emails. And, just like internet dating in the U.S., with a simple click of the ‘Block Profile’ button, they are gone.
Here is where things get much different from trying to date in the U.S., there are far more really good, honest women in these countries that truly are looking for a quality, long-term relationship. After weeding through the riff raff, I found that good women in the Philippines are quite plentiful, tend to speak and write pretty decent English [making communication much easier], and the hardest part of the process was going to be finding the right woman for me in this seemingly endless supply of good women with great hearts. I chatted with women close to my own age, and women very young who said that ‘age doesn’t matter,’ and every age in between. And, in fairly short-order, I found myself chatting every day [sometimes many times per day] with a great woman that had shared values, goals, faith, and outlook on life. Knowing that if anything was actually going to happen beyond long-distance internet chat and conversation, I would have to put myself on a plane and fly across the big blue ocean.
Here is where things get interesting … I have traveled all over the United States on planes and on extended road trips. In fact, I consider myself a pretty well seasoned traveler when it comes to scooting around the U.S., but international travel is an entirely different experience to prepare for.
The First Trip
So … The first trip to the Philippines was pretty freaking awesome. I fell in love with the country, the culture and life on Panglao Island, Bohol. Check out the videos from my first trip to see some of the places I visited.
I loved life in the Philippines so much …
The Big Move
How much did I love my first trip to the Philippines? So much, that when I got back to the US, I immediately starting making arrangements to move to the Philippines.
I got back to the US on June 6th, 2017, and after criss-crossing the country more than a few times to spend time with family, sell my truck, and move everything into storage that I didn’t give to my son and his fiance for their new house, or sell. I was on the countdown to making the Philippines my new home.
It took just over three months to put my entire life in the US into storage and what was left into a large suitcase, duffel bag and laptop backpack. By the beginning of September, I was heading back to the airport to take that plane back across the big blue ocean.
Some things work, some things don’t
I have said this more than once … On my first trip to the Philippines, I fell in love with the country, but not the girl. Within 10 days of my return to the Philippines, the girl I spent my first month with here was on her way back to her island, and I was again, a single man.
Things are different when you are not here on vacation, and have to work to make a living and pay the bills. I think maybe that was the wedge that came between us. Anyway, we parted ways and my new adventure began.
So, now I was a single guy, living in the Philippines and trying to make my work-life work with my new life. These kinds of changes are not always easy, and it was certainly a challenge. Some clients stayed with me. Other clients left. And, a couple clients ditched out on outstanding invoices, leaving me scratching to make ends meet for a little while.
During this “interim time” I visited Siquijor Island [amazing!], dated, and ultimately settled in for a little while with a new girlfriend. Life was ok, the relationship was good, but not great. I think there was just too many years separating us. We stuck together through the new year, but soon after that things fizzled out, and she was on her way back to her island.
In many ways, dating here in the Philippines is not much different from the US. You have to go out with a lot of women to actually find the one that “rings your bell.” After getting back online and chatting many more women across the Philippines, I met Chien.
Chien and I started spending weekends together, as her work schedule allowed her a 2 day weekend every other week. So, I would buy her boat tickets to come to Panglao from Cebu, and 2+ times per month, we would spend a long weekend together taking long rides on my motorcycle, going out to dinner, out for drinks, and just spending quality time.
There was something very different about Chien. She is a woman of very little drama, easygoing, and simply easy to be with. Our weekends together became a “standing date” and we would spend the time apart chatting on messenger, sending pics, and planning her next visit.
Then, God decided that it was time for us to take our relationship to “the next level.”
The first home pregnancy test let us know that Chien was pregnant. So did the second and the third home pregnancy tests. Ya, I wanted to triple-check to make sure. After all, when we found out she was pregnant, I was getting ready to turn 50, and having another child was the last thing on my mind or in my current plan. But, I always trust that God never gives us more than we can handle, and our plans are not necessarily God’s plans for us. So, I knew it was time to embrace this next stage in my [our] life, and put myself into dad mode.
It took a couple months for Chien to process her resignation from her job in Cebu, so she could come live with me full time. But, we got it handled, and by August my Beautiful Baby Mama [BBM] and I were making house, lookiing for a bigger house to rent, making plans, and going to prenatal appointments.
When Chien was 5 months pregnant, we had our first ultrasound and found out we were having a little girl. OMG, our little girl would be the first girl on my side of the family. I have two adult sons in the US, and my brother has 3 sons [my super awesome nephews!].
Well, we found an awesome house to rent in Alona Beach, and we were able to move in on January 9th, which turned out to be just days before our daughter. Cydney Alexandra, was born.
More to come …